onnestabe wrote:TBM, I see where you are coming from, and I don't pretend to know the whole situation, but I just left a job that I hated for another job that wasn't technically a paycut, but it does limit my earning potential over the long term.
So far I love the change. I get home between 5:30 and 6:00 (6:30 and 8:00 at the old job), so now I have time to cook dinner at night and work out in the mornings. I think it is OK to take less money if your overall quality of life is going to be better - then it's just like you are paying someone else for your own time.
That's really the key - does the loss in finances outweigh the gain in personal happiness? Like Captain said, I'd much rather have my wife working in a job that makes her happy for the next 30 years than one that makes her unhappy (and hard to live with) for the next 30.
TBM, you've got to figure out if, financially, you can afford the cut in salary. No matter how much your current combined income you're going to have to adjust your lifestyle to the new income. Is the adjustment going to be too severe for you to handle? Is the adjustment going to strain your relationship with the change in lifestyle? Those are your big questions.
If you can afford it, and if it will make her that much happier, be happy for her. If it’s not financially viable, show it to her on paper and let her see for herself.
If you do all this and she’s still not seeing the light, I think you have no choice but to fake your own death.