Well, we just paid off a bunch of debt, to the point where we were going to have expendible income every month. We were gonna divide it into thirds and save it, put it into an IRA, and use the rest to improve the house (which given, is pretty much done anyway). I was looking forward to using the money in that way.
I personally think in about 6-8 months she will hate this job too. Then she will go find another. You have a much higher likelyhood of making more at a new job if you made more at your last job in the legal feild. I think the move will hurt us financially down the road.
Regardless, if she is so unhappy at the job she is at, how can I tell her to stay?
Truthfully, I believe everything happens for a reason, and God will sort things through. So I guess I'm ok with it. I was just looking forward to funding an IRA.
The Balanced Man wrote:Well, we just paid off a bunch of debt, to the point where we were going to have expendible income every month. We were gonna divide it into thirds and save it, put it into an IRA, and use the rest to improve the house (which given, is pretty much done anyway). I was looking forward to using the money in that way.
I know how youre feeling (or will feel). Late in '04 my wife "lost" her job through outsource, but was kept on at the new company...at HALF of what she was making (now 25k/year). That definitely put a crimp on our style. (At least mine anyway.) I was up-and-coming as a pro bowler, but this hit cost us too much money to continue practicing as much as I was, and paying tourney fees with the thought that I may not make the $ back. My life is fine and I've made some good money in real estate over the last couple of years that I may or may not have made in pro bowling. My advice would be to keep your eyes/ears open for other financial outlets that may be able to soften the financial blow and also realize that initially it may suck, but after a while you dont miss what you dont have.
Money's just money, man. You can't take it with you when you die. Whenever you're on your deathbed and looking back at your life... are you going to say "man i'm sure glad I made my wife keep that good paying job, even though it made her miserable, consequently making me miserable in the process" or are you going to say... "i'm sure glad i decided that money's not the most important thing here, and that my wife was able to happy"
TBM's main worry here isn't the money, though it is a worry. His main worry is that his wife will take this job and then hate it in 6 months, thus if you are going to hate both jobs you might as well hate the higher paying one. Hope it works out for you!