O.K., I will give you the girls' perspective. Not that I have had any experience dating for a long time (almost 19 years), but I know things change a lot when you go to college. Especially if your boyfriend is not there with you. Those years in college change a person a lot and it just sounds like she was ready to move on. It sucks, but like everyone else has said, it is probably best that it ended now and not after it was too late.
I had an ex-bf in college who did everything he could to discourage me from dating my now husband, it just flat out turned me off. There was no way in he** that I was going to get back with him, no matter what he did. I just wanted him to leave me alone. I say, go your own way. She may see you doing your own thing and realize how much you did mean to her or realize it was really time to move on. Either way, it is a good thing to just let it go for now. Doing something "macho" or following her around like a puppy dog is just going to push her away even farther. There are plenty more fish in the sea!! You still have plenty of time to find the perfect girl! Sorry about it, but you are probably better off! Good luck J and hang in there!
Thanks for all the support guys, and girl. I'm sure everyone has gone through rough spots with relationships in their lives. I guess this one hurts the most b/c it's my longest relationship so far. I will take everyones advice/input, as well as my friends/family and try to make the best of everything. Not to be corny, but this is another reason that makes you guys here at the Cafe great
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to be quite honest with you, i know very little about relationships, but I have a great deal of common sense, and common sense tells me to wait and see how long she's single, if it's less than a week and she's with that guy, you don't have a chance at all, she's probably been cheating (don't take that offensively) and left you for more of a reason than whatever she told you. sorry if that sounds harsh. but sorry for what happened, that's gotta be tough.
edit: for some reason this comes off sounding very mean, and it wasn't intended that way, it almost sounds like I'm insulting your common sense, which is totally not the case, just letting you know that if it comes across that way, I'm sorry that was not the intent.
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Get yourself a severance pop and move on. Don't forget to post naked pictures of her all over the internet.
For real though, I don't know what you can do. Other than walk away, I don't think much will be successful. Perhaps you could stay friends with her, but that might be too painful. I've gone both ways with my exes -- remained friends and totally cut ties. Other than the benefits and booty calls, you may realize you are better suited as friends. Further down the line, she may hook you up with some of her friends.
Finally, and most importantly, don't get too down. It may feel like the world is collapsing on you, but things will brighten up. Even if you don't see a light at the end of the tunnel, things will eventually get better.