The_Captain wrote:Congrats stomperrob - I'm sure it's finality is a load off your mind! I remember the euphoric feeling I felt when my first (and only) divorce was final.
Did you get full custody of your boys?
Thanks. I had to agree to split custody 50/50, but our 15 year old prefers to be here most of the time so the ex doesn't mind, and since I'm retired and the ex works, I have the 4 year most of the time and even when she's off she doesn't ask to see him very often even though she lives 3 blocks away. I gambled and won - a custody fight would have cost around $20,000 and there's no guarantee I would have won - I told the lawyer to just go with the 50/50 (which prob would have happened anyway even with a fight) because I knew having the children would interfere with her lifestyle and it turned out I was right - but had I fought her, she would have demanded the kids just to get back at me. So, as it turns out the kids are with me about 90% of the time (but she has her family convinced she's this doting mother who's always doing things with the kids - even her answering machine message has the kids names as though they live there for when her family phones).
And yeh, it is a great feeling and a load off my mind that's it finally over!