Kilroy1872 wrote:Glad to hear it's over and that things worked out OK for you and your boys Rob. Best of luck to you all in the future!
I concur!
Remind me to never get married. Seems like too much of a hassle even if I think I've found a nice girl. I don't want to get divorced if I ever do it, and these days it's just too prevalent.
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Divorce is unfortunate, but in your case it appears it may be a blessing. An unattentive, uncaring, and negligent parent is a harmful parent. And it seems like you thought everything through for the wellbeing of your children. Kudos to you for that. Stay well stomper and don't let the kids see how you really feel. They'll figure out the truth sooner than later, if they don't already.
Congrats, Stomper. I remember the thread where you talked about finding out about your ex's infidelity. That was tough to read, and I really felt bad for you. Divorce is never fun, but I'm glad for you and your boys that it's done and over with.
I hope you're not turned off on the idea of marriage forever. It sounds like you've had some bad "luck," but maybe in the future it won't be like that for you. You never know. I know you'll do what's best for your boys, especially that little guy.
For anyone else contemplating marriage, just remember that people change. That girl you are so head-over-heels in love with today won't be the same person tomorrow. They change, you change, and your life circumstances change. Sometimes those changes are really bad, like the changes that (apparently) happened to Stomper's ex, and sometimes they’re for the better.
My wife and I have been married for 15 years now. We’ve changed a LOT in those 15 years, not the least because we were so young when we got married. Interests change, personalities change, life happens around you, and our relationship today isn’t at all what it was back then. But if you’re both committed to the marriage, it’ll work out. So Chrisy, Mercer – don’t write off the idea of marriage because some people get divorced.
knapplc wrote: For anyone else contemplating marriage, just remember that people change. That girl you are so head-over-heels in love with today won't be the same person tomorrow. They change, you change, and your life circumstances change. Sometimes those changes are really bad, like the changes that (apparently) happened to Stomper's ex, and sometimes they’re for the better.
My wife and I have been married for 15 years now. We’ve changed a LOT in those 15 years, not the least because we were so young when we got married. Interests change, personalities change, life happens around you, and our relationship today isn’t at all what it was back then. But if you’re both committed to the marriage, it’ll work out. So Chrisy, Mercer – don’t write off the idea of marriage because some people get divorced.
Good post. I think people especially change during their early to mid twenties, so if you wait a little longer I think people have a little better idea of who they are, who they want their significant other to be and what they want out of life. In other words, don't rush it. There's a reason why the divorce rate gets lower the longer you wait to get married.
knapplc wrote: For anyone else contemplating marriage, just remember that people change. That girl you are so head-over-heels in love with today won't be the same person tomorrow. They change, you change, and your life circumstances change. Sometimes those changes are really bad, like the changes that (apparently) happened to Stomper's ex, and sometimes they’re for the better.
My wife and I have been married for 15 years now. We’ve changed a LOT in those 15 years, not the least because we were so young when we got married. Interests change, personalities change, life happens around you, and our relationship today isn’t at all what it was back then. But if you’re both committed to the marriage, it’ll work out. So Chrisy, Mercer – don’t write off the idea of marriage because some people get divorced.
Good post. I think people especially change during their early to mid twenties, so if you wait a little longer I think people have a little better idea of who they are, who they want their significant other to be and what they want out of life. In other words, don't rush it. There's a reason why the divorce rate gets lower the longer you wait to get married.
knapplc wrote:Congrats, Stomper. I remember the thread where you talked about finding out about your ex's infidelity. That was tough to read, and I really felt bad for you. Divorce is never fun, but I'm glad for you and your boys that it's done and over with.
I hope you're not turned off on the idea of marriage forever. It sounds like you've had some bad "luck," but maybe in the future it won't be like that for you. You never know. I know you'll do what's best for your boys, especially that little guy.
Thanks for that - the support around here is always great! And thanks to everyone else too.
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I don't want to get divorced if I ever do it, and these days it's just too prevalent.
