vitalogist wrote:thanks for all the kind words guys.
for starters, yes adultery was committed many times. it wasnt that that broke the deal for me it was all the lying and deceit that she did.
after reading up on the laws, 1) even though i earned the bulk of the money she is entitled to 50% and 2) the adultery is not going to count against her since this is a "no-fault" state. so that blows. so i'm definitely calling a lawyer tomorrow and i'm going to find out what i can do.
what's most important to me is earning no less than joint custody of my 5 and 2 year old sons, meaning they are with me 50% of the time and her 50% of the time. i havent decided to fight for custodial status or not. i'll keep everyone posted and thanks again for all the support.
That's exactly what happened in my case so I have an idea what you must be going through. It's not easy, but hang in there! Just remember we're always here.