Before you start reading, this IS about fantasy football. Not sure where to officially post it, but its a crappy situation I'm in that many others have faced in some way or another...
The pride and joy of my fantasy football experience each year is a local 12-team money league that we all get together to draft. This year, we have the added excitement of a 2005 Madden tournament to start the day to choose draft order for the fantasy draft.
Our commish selected a draft day that fell on my wife's father's birthday. I knew my wife would throw a fit (she doesn't think highly of fantasy football), so to alleviate a crappy no-win situation, I talked our commish into moving the draft a day earlier. He got ahold of the other owners and confirmed it all.
Three days ago, my wife and I got a wedding invitation to a mutual friend's wedding. While this friend is moreso my wife's friend than mine, she is a co-worker that I don't mind hanging out with that we've both known for about four years. She had told us originally that the wedding would be in the middle of August, so when we planned our league draft for the last weekend in August, I didn't have a worry in the world. I was pumped, excited and overjoyed that I got to draft a day where I could hang out for the full day, play Madden, drink beer, draft, etc. until whenever.
Of course, the wedding invitation announced the wedding for the same day as our draft. I was pissed. I'm always sacrificing doing things with the guys to instead be with my wife through a series of family reunions, family birthdays, etc. I had the foresight to intervene and have our draft moved off of my father-in-law's B-day. And still, I get hammered with this. I can never win!
As much as I hated to, I e-mailed the commish on Friday and talked with him today. Obviously, the draft can't be moved. Everyone is set, some took off work and others can't do it any other time.
I could probably make the wedding and rush back to the commish's house in time for the draft itself, but I'd miss the Madden tournament, mess up the brackets and screw myself in a draft position. Plus, I'd lose out on the all-day experience and fellowship that can only be experienced at a live draft party.
My wife isn't the keenest about attending events on her own. I know the mutual friend won't be heartbroken if I can't make it, although I'm sure she'll be somewhat disappointed -- however, if I try to talk my wife into this scenario, I know I'm in for a little vacation to hell (we're also pregnant and due in early November, so the mood swings are definitely rampant).
However, with the baby coming, I know there will be ton of things I'll be sacrificing this fall and winter. I don't mind doing that for the baby, but it would be nice to have one last full-day guy event at our draft extravaganza. I'm already turning down an Atlantic City run with some other friends in October.
Anyway, I know other guys here can relate to the "Everybody-Loves-Raymond" type dilemma I'm in. When it comes to fantasy football, many of us have spouses/significant others that are not too forgiving when missing "together time" for a guys day out.
I need help!! This will probably be my biggest fantasy question of the year, sadly.
So should I:
piss off my wife (and disappoint the mutual friend) and go to the draft
piss off my friends and leaguemates and put myself in a fantasy hole by going to the wedding
or pull a Ricky Williams and retire from everything and run to Asia??